Feels like we could be heading towards a DB… My partner and I have been together 16 years and before asking or assuming why we are not married, it’s a mutual decision not to be. So much can change in 16 years in a relationship. Physically I’ve improved over the last 8 years and we are both in the best shape we’ve ever been in. We met in our 20s and I feel like we are different people now with different priorities and for me seems this is normal with maturity. He is my best friend and we spend every moment possible together in addition to some shared interests and sexual exploits that tend to fluctuate with timing. We both have a healthy love for porn, and I don’t think he is addicted or cheating, but maybe aging or just bored?

Recently we’ve had nights where I am practically standing there naked or in lingerie and no action at all, not even a pat on the ass, just our normal good night kiss. Kinda bruises one’s ego when you’ve gotten your “come hither” game down to a science. I felt like a clown if I’m being honest. After all these years and changes in sexual appetites and libido, is it fair to ask if there is still attraction? Maybe it’s a temporary rut? We communicate pretty good and it’s one of the best relationships I’ve ever been in but I worry the question might offend when I’m really just trying to understand the change in behavior. I feel like we could potentially be heading to a DB if this continues.