Married 19 years. (M here). So last year she finally started to see a therapist and realized how hurt and impactful some early experiences were for her as a young adult. She has been doing good work on herself which I am genuinely excited about. The challenge is that part of that work is “listening to her body” and her body is telling her that all touch is bad without a wanting on her part. I am immensely supportive of this work.

The hard part is that for just under a year we have not touched. No holding hands, no kissing, no casual touch on the arm, and definitely no sex. Absolutely no touch at all. My love language and the way I have connected is through touch so this has been hard for me, but I want to be supportive.

My question is this. If one partner in a monogamous relationship wants absolutely no touch, and the other is needing that, how is there a future? This has been so hard.

We each see individual therapists and have seen a couples therapist for awhile as well.

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