I posted quite a while ago about my DB situation. The wife and I (both 37) have worked on a lot together. Things have gotten a lot better she has shown much more attention to my needs and feelings but I fear it’s too late. Even though things have gotten better physically I no longer feel like I even want it after everything that has happened. Not great on my part but completely unintentional, another woman has become close to me. We have not physically met but have been talking for almost a year. We also have occasional video calls and she has expressed her feelings for me. She knows I am married and is clear about the situation and I feel bad for letting it happen but I also feel that part of it is a result of no longer even wanting to fix things.

I know this post is a bit of me rambling on but it helps. At this point I can say I love my wife, more than anything, as a friend and companion but the passionate love aspect is gone almost completely. I know if we separate there would be no salvaging a friendship but I think this may be best. I’ve never really taken my own needs into consideration and it’s time to finally do that. As for the other woman, I have no plans to jump into a relationship but I would like to meet and at least become closer friends. She knows that. Any comments appreciated advice is not necessary but I like to know everyone’s thoughts.