I'm new here, but will try and detail my situation out as clear and concise as I can.

Over the course of around the last 6 or so years (since my 2nd child was born) my sex life has been on the gradual decline. More so over the last 2 years. To give you an idea, we have actual PIV sex probably on average about once every 2-3 months. For some reason since I hit my 40's my sex drive has absolutely rocketed to the extent I'm horny every day. My wife on the other hand has minimal if any interest in any form of intimacy (masturbation, oral sex, teasing etc) as well as actual PIV sex.

Now in her defence she has a couple of valid reasons for being like this...

1) She had a bad accident around 18 months ago, and since has been suffering from PTSD and high anxiety.

2) She believes she is peri-menopausal which has killed her libido.

Now I'm trying to be understanding to these issues, but am really struggling perhaps selfishly with the lack of intimacy. Whenever I try to 'arrange' sex I'm met with an angry/annoyed response. She often says she's too tired for anything during the week, and Saturday is a better day for it, but then Saturday rolls round and there is another excuse. I've even tried buying sex toys to spice things up, in case her lack of interest might be down to things getting stale. She doesn't mind using them but isn't very enthusiastic about it. I've even started to question whether it's me, whether I no longer satisfy her, whether she no longer finds me sexually attractive.

I guess my question is whether I should just chill out and give her more time due to the issues she's dealing with that I mentioned above? Or should I be doing more to try and resurrect our love life?

Thanks for any advice in advance.

TL;DR My sex life is dead but my wife has been through/going through some issues. Should I give her time in the hope things get better?