Been in nearly a dead bedroom for 10 years(tried nearly everything over that time with little to no success and very little effort from her). I said I wanted a divorce. She asked for one more chance. I said ok. It's been good for and 2 weeks now. Cool progress.

I'm anxious all the time that it will stop the sex. Every little positive action she does just make me hurt. After all these years she can just "snap" out of it? I don't think it's hysterical bonding, as she still says no when it's not convenient for her( which is great!) and struggles to initiate some. But we are having regular sex.

I'm just now realizing how much healing I have to do. And I'm bitter that it took ten years for me to threaten divorce for her to change. I don't know if I can fully forgive her, I have so much resentment. The games she's played.

I was fully expecting our conversation to end in divorce. I'm fully expecting us to go back to DB, at which point she knows I'm gone and I'm not putting up with it.

I just feel emotionally drained and hurt. Shouldn't I just be happy we're having sex again on a regular basis?