This is my alt account. Dated 3 and married 4. Things started dropping off shortly before marriage and now it's dead as dead gets. I'm done and months back cheated and came clean so she agreed to an open marriage. I'm to the point I want to be with the other person and just am done trying to pretend the marriage is going anywhere. All this time she is planning her parents visiting, a cruise, planting landscaping, and seems like all is roses. First, is she stupid? Second, how do I best tell her it's done and there is no fix. I hate to hurt her but I know that is going to happen, but we just don't work anymore. So, advice is there a better or worse way. She has a week off next week I thought about doing it then because she would have a week to process.

Edit: For those of you that wish to condemn me as a unloving axx. You obviously can't read. Have I made mistakes and moments of poor judgement? Yeah I'll own that. Do I deserve a total 180 from the wedding day to now, so much I don't recognize the person I married? No hell no!!! If you open your eyes you would see I love this woman, or the leaving would be all about me, not how to make it as easy as it can be for her. I've shed many tears over this, but it's just not going to work.

To those with messages of support or commiseration thank you. Some of your suggestions are really great and I hope I can use them to make this as good as a bad thing can be.

Edit: Thank you all for your opinions. I'm going to do it Fri. She has all next week off so it will be a good time as she will have the entire week to process.