Married 18 years and I wonder if it’s over. She has a troubled history with sex and that has meant we have struggled with it. The past year she decided not only were we not going to have sex anymore, but that physical contact was too hard for her. Yes she sees a therapist, I also have a therapist, we have a therapist together, yes it is a massive part of our budget.

I’m afraid it’s close to being over. I want so badly for things to work but I am just not important to her anymore. I want to be supportive but can I be a background character forever? She hasn’t said “I love you” in at least 6 months. I don’t know. I just know I feel so sad. So alone. So neglected.