Before that it was twice in a year. We have had emotional issues, but we are slowly getting better about that. But every time I try she has a different excuse. Sometimes she is too tired, other times she doesn’t feel into it, other times it’s her body. We had a child three years ago, and I was feeling neglected for months afterwards, and she saw me looking at other women’s profile on fb. That’s yet another reason why. So I feel like she is just holding all these things against me. I know she is having issues with her confidence about her body, but I don’t know what to do.

UPDATE: one night after being out at the bars my wife asked me if we could have an open relationship. She said they hadn’t done anything yet but that they were “vibing”. And that they had went out stargazing in the middle of the night. At this time I felt confident to tell her I had been talking to someone else on reddit. I told her we had sexted and she lost it. So now we are going to get a divorce.