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Heyo.
I am a M/25 in a relationship with a F/24 and she legit can't sleep with me unless she takes some sort of drug. Weed, MDMA, edibles ,Alcohol and PT141 We tried everything and I can't help but feel it's just a band-aid for the fact that she really Doesn't enjoy sex and too afraid to tell me to lose the relationship.
Not to say when when she takes them the act itself is that much to enjoy, I could see it's painful for her 7/10 times, and I ask if it is, and she says to just keep going and it's fine.
At first I thought it was the pill, and I am sure it wasn't helping, so we talked about getting out of it. and she is off it, and we kickstarted her natural hormone production with DHEA 12.5g day and night and supplements and healthy diet.
I Kinda kept trying to problem solve in that way and she was willing to try, We cut caffeine, porn, we tried talking about it a lot, and ... yeah... it getting worse. We are down to once every three weeks, as of yesterday. in that once whether I finish or not is not any concern, as long as she finishes and then it's a question of how long before she says quit and then i get dressed and that's it.
It's really messing with me, The frustration is boiling over, I feel that you can't force someone to enjoy something they don't no matter what is at stake.
the relationship is fine, we are fine, this is like the only actual real issue we have and she used to think so too. I just don't think I can't keep pretending that it doesn't bother me because "Everything else is fine" because this is a part of "everything else".
What's the move? because As of yesterday she kinda threw in the towel and it's not something we will be doing now for a long long time.
at this point I am at a loss on what to do, and this is hurting my self-esteem and my confidence so badly. I talk less to people, I am starting a f***ing weird stutter whenever people talk about sex. Any help would be appreciated.
Cheers and thank you for reading.
Holy heck dude! you are awesome!
Her skin is dry and itchy since she got on the pill, and even after, I gave her test hoping enough of it would turn to estrogen. But she has very low Estrogen as of today, I can say that with confidence.
We ran into the same problem of shading with the test use and that's why i tried DHEA, just to regulate natural production. I think a estradiol patch, DHEA, Prometrium , testosterone cream, d-mannose, n-acetyl l-tyrosine and a vaginal estrogen cream is the stack here. It's a lot of money but it's gonna stop a lot of suffering and it's worth it.
I really can't thank you enough, you are really amazing. Your input here is extremely valuable and it might have saved my relationship.
I am in your debt my friend.
Cheers!
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Oh wow! Well, I can promise it's not you in question XD, because alcohol is her least favorite, Weed is her go to, which research and personal experience says it's ass for sex drive.
My Issue is there is no effort to get me to finish, you know, no "old fashioned" hand work and it doesn't take much, it's like 15mins and we are done and you get a date and a night out of it. Like it's really not much to ask, It hurts to ask... you feel me? the fact that I have to ask to be considered in the bedroom hurts me deeply, like why is it even a second thought? I give her a wild time without the ol 'in and out" just oral and other stuff, and if she denies it the neighbors can't. you can't fake having what appears to be a seizure for 45 seconds then taking a nap so deep after that she starts farting like a load engine.
Either way, i don't think it's fair.