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Hello, Iām a 32 year old Hispanic male living in TX. I currently work as an engineer for a major refinery in the area, so my time outside of work can be fairly limited and I find it hard to make new connections outside of just work colleagues who sometimes go out for drinks.
To give some history, I recently moved back to Texas late last year. Before that, I was moving around the country for work for about 3 years. First in Oregon, a few months in Iowa, and then in Chicago before making my way back to Texas on a job offer I just couldnāt turn down. Throughout that time, Iāve found it hard to make connections outside of my current (mostly online) friend group. At first I blamed it on moving around so much. But I had over a year in most places I stayed to go out, get to know the area, and maybe find some connections. So that canāt be it, right?
I find myself feeling lonely, more now than ever since Iāve decided to stick it out with this company for the long term and make the most of my career that I can here. But even with that loneliness in mind, how do I go about making friends, let along finding a partner now? I donāt really go out to clubs or party anymore. I go to the gym and a few coffee shops when I have the time, but I doubt you want to be approached by a random man while youāre doing your workout or working and enjoying your drink. Maybe Iām too in my own head, Iām not sure.
What Iām looking for is a partner who wants to be a homemaker. Someone who will be home waiting for me with a kiss and a hot meal. Iād like to have a clean and organized home. In return, Iāll be sure to take care of you and your needs. I would expect my partner to take care of her appearance (hair, nails, etc.), so I would of course pay for all of that. As well as hobbies, clothes, whatever else they may need to be happy. I donāt mind an age gap, obviously why Iām posting here, but please donāt contact me if youāre āclose to 18ā or ācan you wait a year for me?ā. I donāt interact with minors in that way and never will.
Essentially, my partner will be well taken care of. Iāll always try and buy you the best. Weāll take vacations in and out of the country. If you donāt want to work again, you donāt have to.
Even if you prefer to work, I donāt mind that. I already have a housekeeper that comes by every few weeks to clean. At the end of the day, Iām just looking for a partner to share life with. So just be willing to have good communication and be emotionally stable. The rest we can work out as it comes.
I want to clarify that children arenāt for me. Please donāt try to change my mind on this, itās not going to happen and just an uncomfortable conversation to avoid.
Do I have physical preferences? Of course I do, I think we all do. My preferences are more with how someone presents themselves and takes care of their appearance more so than specific physics characteristics. My job has certain social functions that I sometimes have to attend and showing up well dressed and well put together can be a big factor in terms of image and perception. And you know what they say? āPerception is realityā, at least in the corporate world.
I want to go ahead and give a disclaimer so that you donāt waste your time. I am in the larger side at the moment and am working on losing the weight for both aesthetic and health reasons. To give you an idea, I currently weight 265 and my end goal weight is 175. I am working with my doctor, a nutritionist, and a trainer to reach this and have already made progress. But if this isnāt something youād want to be around for, or Iām just not your type thatās fine. Please donāt waste both of our time by making fun of my weight or mocking my efforts to become a better me. I know how easy that can be done through a screen and a keyboard.
If you actually read all of this rambling mess and any of it resonated with you, shoot me a message and we can chat. No expectations, just a friendly exchanging of words.
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