Searching for a 45 year old man who understands that a long-term relationship doesn’t happen instantly and takes effort from both parties; no ENM, no poly; I don’t want to be a third or fourth wheel to anyone. I don't plan on diving into intimacy right away so you shouldn't be pressuring me for that either. I definitely want that later on; lots of playtime and fun, but I am not looking for a one-night-stand or something short term so we have to get there in time.

You should value that I am honest and prioritize communication and offer me the same qualities. If we can’t both talk about dislikes or issues as they arise, it only becomes more difficult or impossible later. How are we to get to know each other better than anyone else knows us in our special way if we can't tell each other anything and keep each others' secrets?

You love animals and are not allergic to cats because I have two adult cats and just adopted two kittens that I was fostering.

I keep a schedule of starting my day around 1 in the afternoon and go to bed around 4am. My "prime time" for chatting is midnight to 4am CST on Sat/Sun/Mon after work and anytime after 2pm to 4am on Tues/Weds/Thurs/Fri. If you're a night owl, we might get along. :)

You write in an educated manner (No "lol's" and text-speak all over the place) and would enjoy writing to me and talking with me via that medium; both initially, and later on, when we're apart between visits. I love writing. I like sharing with another person in written form. Please have something to say when you write to me and know how to keep a conversation alive early on so it doesn't fade from neither of us knowing what to say.

You should want to get to know me, my responses, how my mind works, how to help me calm down or feel safe with you, and you want to learn how to help me be my best self for you and for myself. And, by the same token, you want to accept what I have to offer and give in return. You have more of a decisive personality, knowing when and how to take the lead most of the time, but you also know that it's okay not to lead all of the time.

420 friendly.

Online is okay to start but I will want to get to meeting (and regular meets) in person. I prefer a search radius of approximately no more than 12 hours drive time from Milwaukee, Wisconsin (in US or Canada). That leaves us with a 6 hour drive to split for some meets.