So without pictures here, but here is the message I am trying to get on the dating app (pictures are often viewed as a 7 or 8 out of 10 without Me working on looks, but I also have a great personality)

Also I am not the type who cares much for looks as personality and action mean alot more to me than looks.

Looking for advice on both types of relationships I may put on a dating app, as well as how to conduct myself on the app

Also my format is

• main point

(Reason for point)

$what I offer or am open to do for them (not excited or limited to)

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Main dating

*1 need a future orinted partner and action oriented "I want there for I will work towards it"

( can't stand those people who focus on the past, as there is no ability for me to see a future with somone who isn't also future oriented , as it makes me feel like they aren't taking the relationship seriously, and I will move on)

$ I offer a action orinted and dynamic adaptable output that is focused on achieving whatever I or my partner cares about and will work together to grow

*2 I need somone who is willing to communicate directly, ask questions, and live by their own wants and desires, not focused on others beliefs and shoulds are

(I am very individualistic, and don't respect or like people who are mentally lazy, codependent, or fixated on what everyone else thinks at the expense of themselves, these kind of people tend to start fights with me and Haras me about others and tend to never focus on themselves)

$ I offer raw honest and straightforward communication, questions to help me understand, and the means to have conversations and make plans to achieve better solutions and lifestyle

3* I want somone who lives life by the physical real world, not the social one, and also is personal in nature and focus

(I don't find much personal value in society or social drama, if anything I tend to see it as dehumizing most of the time and prone to self invalidation. I also see people who are too symbolic or focused on abstractions of relaity to be rather hard to work with. So I would rather somone who values the physical and emotional world more so they can grow to achieve what they want than the should, what ifs, beliefs systems, culture, and other imagination based factors. The real world comes first for me, and I will not like somone who can't feel the same... especially since I want to grow and know that most is possible when we ground ourselves in what's real)

$ direct and action orinted lifestyle who will do and find a way to achieve anything, so long as you also put in the work and don't expect me to do it all.

*4 somone who can take care of themselves and doesn't feel they need a man or partner, but would rather have one that they like

(Choice is huge for me and I can't stand obligation relationships. If you are in one with me, don't expect me to follow any relationship rules unless we agree or discuss them, and even then don't commit because you have to, I want a women who will try to talk about their problems, work it out , and leave if they are unhappy and unable to do so. As trust me I will do the same. I also want somone I can occasionally leave alone for a while and not feel bombarded with codependent or I need somone texts. You lived this long alone, why can't you do so when in a relationship?)

$ a relationship built on choice and mutual respect, as well as one that is not an obligation as we are human first, and individuals second, as I don't want or expect my partner to change everything to be a servant... that stuff urks me. I want a partner, and to me a partner is treated as an equal and gets the same respect from me as I do.

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For sex only relationship (as I don't want to break any more hearts because they want both and aren't worth both)

*1 looking for someone who is either infertile or who is able to prove they are on birth control and is willing to do an abortion if pregnant. I will split costs

(Don't like how most women seem to want alot of sex and keep trying to get pregnant even when there is no future of us together or they aren't trying to build one. Plus with the ways the laws are, it kinda sucks that a women can baby trap a man and the man has no protections, and I don't want to have another child that I am not able or willing to be their for because some lady thought I would stay with them if they got pregnant)

$ conversation about meathods, willingness to discuss splitting costs of procedures. Willingness to submit clean paperwork ect....

*2 somoen who isn't looking to mix up sex with love and knows how to handle themselves

(To me sex is a hobby, and it's nothing special, also most women I have been with will say it's special and behave like it's a currency or sign of love. To me I want to enjoy my hobby with mutual safty, and would rather somone who knows how to handle their emotions, as sex with somone doesn't mean anything more than playing tennis with somone. Your there for the Game amd expeirnce, not the person necessarily)

$ the best sex they probably, had, no emotional commitment, clear communication on any potential emotional issues, and stuff like that.

*3 is willing to communicate and discuss boundaries and curiosities, and from contracts around our dos and don't, as well as update them should we have a new curiosity

(I seek safe, mutual, and fun sex, not something where we have no understanding of our boundaries and limitations)

$ somone who will do the same.

*4 somone who can think and do things on their own

(I am not looking for a corpse in the bedroom, nor do I want to be doing all the work, sex should be a team effort if being done with me, as I am here to enjoy myself to, not just give the best sex, but hoping to at least get somthing enjoyable on my end to)

$ lessons if your unsure or bad, communication on different ideas, confidence boosts if your unsure how to preform or do.