So my experience with dating apps has me wondering what I could be missing.

From my perspective:

What I see in women's profiles : I see women just wanting one night stands, and free escort services (there profile usually shows no personality or serious interests in a relationship, just getting shit). Most of their profiles are just underwear pics, "be funny", or saying I am emotionally unstable and want attention (often times quiet literally)

In chats : Almost zero conversation with the few matches, usually they just seem to be mostly mute and it seems to feel like I am expected to just talk and do all the conversation. That is assuming they say anything beyond hi (often I don't send any likes except when I have one, as most matches like me first)

Other guys profiles : Kinda more honest and depressed, alot just looking for "cuddles" (weather genuine or a Segway to sex, it is what they say)( also yes I did look at guys profiles as well as I wanted to know) some looking for friends and hangouts as well as sharing hobbies (honestly the men seen more interesting than women on dating apps). Oddly almost no "fuck boys" ( you would think it would be more common)

My profile: Typically I have a few good pics and focus my profile on my desire for an honest and mutually respectful and chosen relationship, where we both define and understand what we want as well as understanding and growing towards the things we seek, I also share my interest for the relationship to be personal (as many are impersonal). I also share how my interest are often focused on sharing experiences, challenging myself to grow, and creating and doing various things. I also make note how I don't care much for social or traditional values, especially when they are at the expense of honesty, truth, and ourselves (I am hyper individualistic, but also hate how many people dehumize others and themselves based on sex, secual orientation, and others, as I am me, regardless of what anyone else says)

My struggle: No matches, no conversation, unable to find any good profiles that have any details (photos mean next to nothing for me, as anyone can pose for a photo, so I could use help judging properly by looks, as I usually am all personality, unless there is a function for looks (like modeling, or theme), I don't like showing off or faking interest (as I want to know somone, and get to know each other on a real, personal, and equal level), I don't seek being in control of the relationship (I hate leader, followers dynamics, as to me, everyone should and does lead themselves and should hold themselves accountable for their lives and choices), I am action oriented and real world oriented (I like physical human action/existence, and struggle to value ideas if they aren't made into somthing. I also don't like sitting still and doing nothing, as often that leads me to anxiety, boredom, and looking for my next project or experiment, as to me life is to be experienced, not just survived)

Also I am in NH in the USA, but have also been in many other places like, DC, Texas, Philadelphia Pennsylvania, NYC new York, and more. My experience both in person and online has been the same.

The apps I have tried to use include

Boo, bumble, tinder, hinge, plenty of fish, and okay cupid.

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Any advice or questions to help me with my search would be appreciated.