If this sounds like you, ask your doctor if a pleasure Dom is right for you.

Warning: side effects may include dehydration, spontaneous squirting and orgasms that leave your whole-body trembling for minutes…

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You: Submissive by nature and interested in exploring her sub space. No race, age or shape requirements. "Sub Space defined below".

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Me: 5'10", BWC, fit/muscular. Blue eyes. 15 years' experience as a Sensual/Pleasure Dom. "Pleasure Dom defined below".

Your desires become my desires, and as long as you’re a good girl, you’ll be given all the cuddles, praises, and orgasms you can handle. I’m open minded in the bedroom, and clean with papers to prove it.

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SUB SPACE: When a Dom(me) can ‘hold the space’ for the Sub, the Sub can completely let go, and in letting go can enter Sub-Space, a divinely blissful state. In seeing and feeling their partner go to such a beautiful place, knowing they’ve opened and surrendered to them, the Dom(me) goes into Dom-Space, feeling desired and powerful and able to surrender to themselves, freeing them to pleasure themselves with their Sub.

The skill here is for the Dom(me) to be able to hold the space. This requires a deep, deep stillness and calmness. It’s as though the Dom(me) becomes a deep tranquil pool in which the Sub can bathe themselves. Any worry, anxiety, arrogance, or disrespect on the Dom(me)’s part will bring the Sub out of that space, as will too much speed.

The skill for the Sub, assuming the Dom(me) is being as just described, is to let go. This requires an ability to get out of their head and fully feel into the experience. The relating has a sense of ritual to it. It is meditative. It is like a dance.

To enter that space the Dom(me) and Sub need to agree on the nature of the interaction, the boundaries, and have ways of indicating if either of them need to stop or lessen intensity (through safe words and safe signals). For this level of trust, the conversation beforehand is essential.

The greater the bond between the two, the further they can go in their explorations, using elements of restraint, pleasure/pain, teasing and command.

Sensual Kink can be a wonderful place to explore. It's not for everybody, you may not be sure it’s for you or your partner. But hey, it might be, and wouldn’t it open up a whole range of possibilities? Start with a blindfold and some strawberries at the most basic level, and see where your explorations take you…

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PLEASURE DOM: A pleasure dom typically seeks to evoke a sense of complete surrender through the utilization of physical gratification,

such as inducing multiple compelled climaxes or prolonging arousal,

instead of resorting to painful methods.

Emotionally, they lean towards a gentler approach, emphasizing admiration rather than degradation.

Frequently, they embrace a nurturing persona, assuming a caregiver role.