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Hello everyone,
First time father here, a year and a half into watching our little one grow up.
I’ve been struggling with leaving my stresses at work when I get home; I miss my wife and baby SO MUCH when I’m at work, can’t wait to see them, then by the time the day is over and I actually get home, I’m either wore out, miserable, or disassociate to try and unwind, and anymore I just feel like I’ve been missing mentally from my family and that I’m just there.
Been beating myself up because I’m letting precious moments go by, been a bit of an ass to my wife sometimes because of my stresses and just feeling like I haven’t been the dad I should be lately to our little one. It’s like I’m a different person when I walk through the door at the end of the day than who I am when telling my wife I miss her and the baby over text, and I can’t take it anymore.
Anyone have any advice..?
Micro pauses!!
Both me and my wife work full time, about the same times, which is great. We have 2 kids (5 and 1 years old) and have one more on the way (3 months to go. 😊). Or biggest also have autism, which increases the work load by a lot. 🤷
So, we are both constantly tired.. she more than me right now, for obvious reasons..
But we do most things at home togheter, cooking, laundry, cleaning etc..
But, we always give eachother micro pauses, whenever we ask for it.. no questions asked.
"Can I just go lay down for 10 minutes?" "Absolutely, I deal with this, while you do that. And we deal with that thing when your back" "🥰"
This works great for us. 😊
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