I just need to talk about something.. something that I always seen as an obvious thing to do; stepping up!!

I was with my 4 months old on a check up (everything looks great 🥰)

But after the check up the nurse wanted to talk to me about my "new" situation.. I was like "Okay.. but I'm fine, we are fine.."

She asked about how we supported eachother, how we managed alone time, how we split the workload, intemecy and what not.. and all I could say is that we split everything down the middle. It's my kid too, just as much as hers. There are no "me" as long as our baby girl is baby! I wake up at night to care for her when she needs it. I feed her (with bottle) early in the morning as she wakes up hungry.

Thing is.. my girlfriend had a child when we met.. he was 2 at the time.

I went from 100% carefree to "oh, I have a 2 year old now". And I went into it with all I could give. Pushed my own ego to the side and went into parenthood with head held high!! Today, 2 years later, he is my boy! I am his dad! His biological dad wants nothing to do with him.

"I don't find it any fun to be with him" <- Bio dads words to boys mom..

Nurse at the check up was almost in tears and chock as I told her this.. and my girlfriend confirmed that I really do my all for both kids.

It makes no difference for me that this boy is not my "real" kid. He is my boy!! I'm the one doing fun stuff with him. I'm the one comforting him when sad. I'm the one talking to him when he is angry.

All of this and more, just as much as my girlfriend does!!

The nurse told me that she hears alot of stuff from mothers that come to her to talk.. and what I do, as a bonus dad, is extremely rare. Most bonus dads, apparently, push their bonus kids away, care for them less than their own kids.. and I'm like.. what? Why?

I went into this, talking this role as the most serious thing I have ever done in my life! And then I hear about deadbeat bonus dads who can't give two flying ***** about their girlfriends/wifes previous children.. I mean: WTF is wrong with people like that?