My kid (4yr) hates bedtime! And always made a big fuss about it, even got aggressive..

But then we just stoped saying it was night time..

After shower, we tell him to get in his PJs.. he says, "not nighty night" and we just say he's right, it's not nighty night.. but PJs are cozy.. and he agrees and put them on.

Then we say that it would be nice to read togheter in his his bed.. and he just go and pick a book and lay on his bed, and his mom follow him and reads to him. And he even get ta lay wherever, and however in his bed, until he just fall asleep..

Takes about 30 minutes from the point he lays down in bed.. and he sleeps all night..

compared to before, where we told him it was time to sleep.. back then it took about 3-4 hours in bed.. with screaming, flailing, punching, kicking, spitting.. and then he woke up 2 - 3 times per night, where he came in to us and was extreamly restless and moved around in our bed like a hurricane, and I moved him back to his bed..

So.. just focus on making a cozy storytime in her bed.. and try not to talk about sleep time..