Hey Dads,

I'm 30 and my 64 year old mother passed away on Valentine's Day (my parents were celebrating 33 years). She died from cancer and now my 62 year old Dad is alone.

My siblings came and spent so much time with him these last couple of weeks. They know how to talk and bond with him, but being the youngest and most difficult child changes our relationship now.

My Dad tried to disown me last year and our relationship is plummeting. And it was never really strong. I just got done seeing him for an hour, and I am so anxious about him being alone. I'm also more terrified of rebuilding our relationship. I feel obligated to make sure he's okay. I'm also the only child out of 5 who lives in town with him.

I don’t know what to do. I just want to cry whenever I think of spending time with him now.

I'm sure it'll get better over time, but how can I spend time with my dad that's tried to estrange me and is now wanting to connect?