First of all let me say she is an AMAZING pup. Very sweet and kind to anyone, defensive when needs to be, and submissive. I really need help because I’m hating the way I feel like im only seeing her as an annoying responsibility instead of my partner in fur.

Moose (2F old German shepherd/Akita mix) is a great dog and she is very well trained in her tasks. I originally got her during covid when I was living with 3 roommates and my ex at the time. She has consistently had people around up until the past year when i moved out to a place by myself. I left her out to roam at first but that spiraled downward as it started with drool pools by the door to floating shit logs in piss puddles in the living room over the course of 3 months while being home alone for the first time. Now, with a new job, house, partner and her reactive pit 9F who is looking to move in, I want her to be out of the crate so when we are at work she has a play mate. I have tried so many positive crate training forms (Time increments, smell associated clothes, blanket over cage to desensitize, sound machines, chew toys, puzzles, making it game, literally whatever someone said to do). She has shown too many destructive signs to be trusted though. She will come back from a 1 hour run with me, have some brain games when we get back, but will not play with anything by herself unless i get her started. After, i put her in the crate and reward her progressively for up to 2 hours while I am home going from 5-10-20-30-60minutes, free time for an hour, and then repeat. But the moment I ACTUALLY leave for the store, work, dinner, she rips the blankets, beds, destroys anything but her toys or bones (she barely even likes bones past 5 licks!) . Its so frustrating dealing with this because it’s a “sometimes she’s not that bad, sometimes its really bad, bu rarely is it good” kind of situation and I’ve been breaking my back for this AGAIN for the past month. Im just really tired and confused on how to fix something that only happens in my true absence. Anyone have any answers other than telling my vet that I think that my dog is an oversized drama cat.