My wife of 36 years has recently (in the last year) found out she has DID. Since then she has discovered 16 unique personalities. I thought I was doing well with it all, trying to get to know them, doing things with them such as date nights, or making sure when we go somewhere they all get to experience it.

Of late it feels more like she has been faking it this whole time, as there are starting to be some inconsistencies with specific alters who were supposed to be fronting forgetting conversations or things we did. A few times the one who was fronting made a comment about when alter X comes out you can discuss it with her, yet she is Alter X.

We were going through a rough patch when she was diagnosed, and I am almost convinced that she has manifested all of this in her head so I wont leave her. the majority of her alters have abandonment issues. I have NO one to talk to, as our family has no idea, and our kids have issues of their own, we have NO friends because she does not like being around too many people, and she is firmly against any form of therapy, as the medications they tried severely impact her ability to work.

I just feel as I am loosing myself in all of this, and I am spiraling into a hole I may never recover from...

Any advise?