Hi, so I have a bit of a question here. My girlfriend is AMAB & has DID, and currently she is the one fronting long term. She's been here for over a year now I believe, and a couple months ago (before I knew she had DID) I helped her get on estrogen & progesterone so she can feel more happy & comfortable with herself.

Now that I know she has DID, I have met other male alters and now they're expressing feelings of gender dysphoria too. So basically, everybody in the system feels like shit (from what I know) one way or another. Because the girls aren't feminine enough to their liking yet, and the boys are feeling too feminine too. They are all in this weird in between state of transitioning right now, and I feel really guilty for helping her get on estrogen without knowing she had DID.

I know this is her body, and her choice, I would never force her to get off of estrogen. But my question is, should I ask my girlfriend to reconsider transitioning? These changes she's making are permanent (specifically the breast growth), and she has a lot of male alters that I didn't know about saying they don't like it. She hasn't been to therapy yet, so she doesn't communicate well with her alters. I don't think this was a decision she made with everyone's permission or anything. And she doesn't seem to know that fusion exists as a treatment option yet. If she decides to try and fuse the alters together then she doesn't know what gender she'll be in the end, so how will she know if the person she becomes will enjoy the body she has now?

( TW: brief mention of suicidal ideation in this paragraph) This is all just very concerning to me. I don't want any of the alters to experience gender dysphoria it is fucking torture to live with, and I love them all so much. I just don't know when to bring it up or if I even should. So yeah, I'm just wondering, is this something I should bring up to her or keep to myself? (Keep in mind my girlfriend also expresses ideas of wanting to die, etc. So this is partly why I haven't brought it up). What is your experience with gender dysphoria within a system? Did you transition or have to detransition? Any perspectives are extremely helpful, just don't be a straight up transphobe pls. That is obviously not so helpful.