So I just left my boyfriends. I had made him a promise to which under a ton of emotional instability and pain I followed thru. He made pleas suggesting that my emotional state should deter me from a promise. That very nature of our breakup was due to my inability to follow thru and show up.

I have also had this motto or mantra of 80/20 that how much you can depend on me. Maybe or maybe? And depends on what the number meant in the first place.

So this got me thinking hmm ..

We need to know the reason for relationship ending because we understand our lives as a story, and it's difficult to give a story a proper ending when it ends right in the middle – and we weren't the ones to end it.

When someone breaks up with us, be it a friendship or romantic relationship, he or she can tell their story. Since they know the reason for the breakup, they have a beginning, middle, and end, but we don't. We're thrown from what we may have thought to be a safe and happy place into unknown territory.

When we receive closure, we then have the missing piece. We can restructure our stories by correcting any misunderstandings and filling in the gaps.

However, when the other person refuses to help provide closure, all that's left are questions: "How could s/he do this to me?", "What could I have done differently?", "Were there signs along the way that I missed that something was wrong?", "How can I trust myself to do the right thing in future relationships?"

Oh man — what am I suppose to do? I have 5 alters in today that in their own special way needs some form of closure. They have stories they have to finish as well. They have in past and present have made promises that they aren’t even able to execute.

As the host ,or primary, I was able to end and close. Well I kind. But why do the others need?