The Basics

I am a heterosexual, dominant man, but more than that I am a lover of wisdom. I seek meaning, knowledge, and beauty in all things. I value directness, discretion, informed consent, goal-oriented discipline, and the mutual satisfaction of complementary needs.

Physically I am Caucasian, 6’2”, brown hair, and a decently muscular build. I have a few tattoos, no piercings.

I want a monogamous, romantic relationship with a significant element of the power exchange dynamic. I want someone whose submission is an indelible part of herself. I want something substantial.

The Details

My History

I have been involved in power exchange for about 13 years. I own property in western Lane county, though I have lived in a variety of places before this including internationally. I am the host of the Eugene/Springfield TNG Munch.

Health Etc.

I am STI free and support testing when taking on a new partner. I believe in modern medicine and have received COVID vaccines. I have had a vasectomy and am happily child free.

Myself, Outside of Kink

I enjoy playing and listening to live music, gardening, cooking, bodybuilding and strongman, tabletop and online gaming, reading and writing, archery, and thoroughly relaxing after work. I have a pet cat so I know how to handle cuddly brats. I work as a software engineer and am on track towards FI/RE lifestyle.

My favorite music genre is progressive metal, favorite food is enchiladas, favorite liquor is scotch, favorite position is missionary with lots of intense eye contact and hand squeezing.

What I Want:

My ideal partner is serious about her submissive side. She values herself and her femininity, and recognizes the importance of a healthy mind, body, and spirit. She has her own passionate interests outside of the relationship, especially if they are rather nerdy.

What I Offer:

I offer my commitment to the mutual fulfillment of our complementary needs, and my experience and resources towards that end.

As a person I offer attention, affection, and lots of cuddles. I offer fun times both during play and when just hanging out or on dates. I offer my skills as a chef and gourmand - I really love to share a healthy and delicious meal with someone special. I offer the opportunity to unwind, relax, and get cozy together.

As a Dom I offer rigorous discipline, high expectations, and prompt feedback. I offer the opportunity to grow and delve deeply into your submissive side in a safe and consensual environment. I offer frank, honest, and ongoing communication including clear rules, goals, and expectations for both of us. I offer intense sexual and emotional experiences and thorough aftercare.

My Ideal Relationship:

The exact details will be thoroughly negotiated both upfront and on an ongoing basis and should evolve as we progress. I enjoy various flavors of power exchange with a preference towards DDlg.

Broadly speaking, I would like this relationship to include:

• Regular BDSM play including but not limited to bondage, S&M, sensory play, and intercourse.
• Persistent elements of protocol such as use of an honorific: “Sir”, “Daddy” etc.
• Service-oriented submission including activities such as light housework, serving drinks, assistance with food prep, or relaxing massage.
• Behavioral modification including obedience training, attire control, and feminization.
• Orgasm control and conditioning including enforced chastity, edging, and forced orgasm.
• Dates and vanilla activities not focused on BDSM.
• Lots of cuddles and love.

More About me

For more information about me, see my profile and my writings. Here are a few that may be especially illuminating:

• My Key Kinks and Hard Limits
• Qualities I look for/train for in a sub
• A little kinky poetry
• Some fantasy writing

Final Thoughts

For me, power exchange is an essential aspect of a satisfying relationship. I would rather be in no relationship than an unfulfilling relationship. By writing this I hope to meet someone special with whom to play, grow, and learn. Please do not be intimidated or hesitate to respond if this post appeals to you. Worst case scenario we have some friendly conversation, but if we’re honest and a bit lucky we might build something really magical and enduring.

Hoping to hear from you,

J