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Before I add to my hefty lawyer bill, just wanted to get input from reddit....
Stbxh and I share 2 kids 36 month old male 19 month old female. There is history of abuse/neglect and so monthly parenting time is supervised by his parents.
Every time the 19 month old sees stbxh or his parents she screams bloody murder, hides her face and refuses to let go of whomever is holding her (sometimes me, sometimes my mom). If stbxh or his parents attempt to take her, she will become combative and start hitting to keep them away from her.
All this to say, there's really two questions I guess.
1) is it worth sending the videos showing these interactions to my attorney for use in court? 2) will the judge consider how emotionally damaging this is to the child?
Thank you all in advance.
I always record. :) but thank you for the advice.
The current custody arrangement is once a month, noon to 6 pm Friday and Saturday. I'm never present during his parenting time.
I've called over 60 providers within a 100 mile radius. The standard age here for play therapy is 3.
I'm in therapy for myself and also for coparenting. The coparenting therapy is to try to help the youngest have a less traumatic time at visitation with stbxh.
Honestly, we've tried everything to make it easier on her.
Unfortunately, she only has this reaction when going to him and/or his parents. I suspect it has something to do with how she's been treated by them in the past, but since she's not fully verbal yet and too young for play therapy there's not much I can do.
The 3 year old is, but the 19 month old isn't. Everyone says she's too young.
Stbxh refuses therapy in any way shape or form.
They appointed an amicus, but he had to recuse himself since I had consulted with him prior to retaining my current attorney.
I mentioned in my post that there is a history of abuse and neglect which is why visits are supervised.
Not yet. Between him attorney hopping and shopping, and our attorneys being unable to agree on a different amicus, we're just in a holding pattern at the moment.
I understand that, but I'm assuming that you didn't have a history of abusing or neglecting your children and only had supervised visitation.
I only say this to say that it's not just speculation, this is due to previous actions and behaviors.
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Gotcha. We've been living seperately and the current custody arrangement has been in place for over a year. It hasn't improved, if anything it's escalated as she's become more vocal and mobile.