I did a recent poll to see who reads this subreddit. The result was unsurprising: more than two thirds of you fell into Category 2. This was the category of women who lack confidence in how to achieve their sexual desires, so they do as they’re told and hope that being a good girl will make them sexy.

The good news is that this works, at least to a point. Submissive, compliant girls are good girls. You’re fun to use.

The bad news is it means you have work to do. You need to develop a better sense of how to be sexy. How to flirt. How to fuck. Anticipate your partner’s desires without making him spell them out.

Some suggestions: dress more feminine. Smile more. Show some skin — legs, cleavage, whatever. Wear skirts and dresses. Be a little more forward; act as if every man you talk to is a possible sexual partner. Imagine the cock of men you meet, and do it while you’re near them; your eyes might wander. Leave your dignity at the bedroom door and make it exquisitely clear that you are devoted to the pleasure of whoever takes you to bed.

You can move from quiet masturbator to a woman that men notice. The question is, will you? How?