Good morning, afternoon or night, clicking this is the first step, but not the hardest. Actually sending out a message will be even harder, as it means admitting what you want is something out of the ordinary.

What I'm currently searching for is a very skewed dynamic, completely TPE based (unfortunately that didn't start with a D), and will mean handing over control about so many things over time that we spend talking, having fun, being naughty, enjoying each others company and primarily me teaching you what I think is the right way to do things, and you will accept this once some trust has been established.

When I said out of the ordinary it will be because I have shamefully few limits, only a handful of dislikes but I do have a lot of kinks or fetishes that just don't do it for me. Examples can be given upon getting to know each other, but I am an enabler (contradictory, I know) and will very likely enable that obscure kink that you think people will judge you for. Heck, I probably came to it myself at least once.

Your role will be that of devotee, and your focus will be me/us. There will be little else and quite frankly, I will keep you so busy there will be little time for much else. I will be the controller, dominant, guide and perhaps in some distant future maybe even Master, although that is a title I think has to be earned and should require a trust greater than anything you've encountered so far. Also, I'm probably one of the biggest nerds alive, and I love it when people geek out over their niche interests and speak of it with passion.

So, the hardest part is next, send a message. Whatever you say, introduce yourself at the very least, and somewhere in the message I also want you to include the facepalm emoji. How else am I going to know that you actually read this? I could just have faith, but I'm not religious and I'll believe what I can see as a rule of thumb. So don't let this opportunity go by, those "what if"s can be brutal.

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