I am a dominant with around 3 years of experience with kink play, especially in regards to hypnosis and humiliation play. I'm looking for a sub that I can play with to satisfy the more extreme kinks that my girlfriend isn't into exploring. My kinks fall primarily into two categories, control and humiliation. In my time exploring kink, I've found that my best role is as a caretaker, while I do enjoy watching subbies squirm, and blush, I don't have any real interest in causing pain to you. If you'd like to be spanked, I can spank you, but I'd much prefer taking control via verbal manipulation, or outsmarting you, or trapping you, than using any physical means.

I am aware that much of what I'm listing here is perhaps more gentle than the tone of this subreddit would suggest, so I want to make it clear that for me, domination means taking those beneath me and using them not only for my own benefit, but to also bring them to their full potential. I do not want to break you, I want to improve you. If you'd like to serve me, then you should expect that.

• Control
  • Hypnosis: I am the most experienced with hypnosis, I've done plenty of text trances and voice trances. I've even recorded files for personal use by my subs in the past. I find that hypnosis is always better when it's personalized, so I tend to be very eager to get to know how your mind works.
  • Manipulation/Verbal teasing: Building off the last point, I enjoy subs who are easily flustered, confused and controlled. Whether we are talking in kink, or outside of it, I will absolutely be looking for any excuse to get you blushing. In a more kinky sense, I can use my understanding of how you work to twist you to my needs and desires.
  • Blackmail: This one is new, and I admit I am not as experienced as I would like to be with it. But the idea of it has always intrigued me and I would love to have a sub I could explore this with.
  • TPE: There's a part of me that is sadistic, that wants to see you squirm and whine. But there is also a part of me that wants to take care of you, to hold you and tell you everything is going to be ok. TPE is interesting to me because it allows me to do both at the same time, I can control your orgasms to make you easier to control, but I can also make sure you're drinking enough water and exercising regularly.
    • As a caretaker style dominant, I find myself wanting to ensure that you are the best version of yourself that I can be. If you want to explore this level of control with me, then you should expect many of the first things I ask of you to be self care, drinking water, exercising/stretching, maybe reading more, etc.
  • Pet play/ddlg: Neither of these are necessary for play with me. They don't particularly interest me personally, However, I know that they are both very common kinks among the community as a whole. And I do have experience with both of them and have no objections taking on a daddy role for you. It's not my kink, but I will enjoy doing it because of how it will reassure you. I'm enough of a caretaker to meet the needs of these kinks.
• Humiliation
  • Triggerplay: One of my favorite past times with Hypnosis is to install little harmless triggers I can use to casually humiliate you. Some examples I've done in the past; A trigger that makes you begin masturbating and forget that you were triggered, one that makes you strip commando and forget where you put your underwear, one that brings you to the edge immediately. I try to be creative, but know that I'll be having fun with you.
  • Bodywriting/Exhibitionism: This one is certainly one I am going to be careful around. I love the idea of writing degrading (and occasionally reassuring) messages on you, on your arms, legs, chest, above your genitals. The feeling of being branded by them deeply accentuates the humiliating aspect of it. Especially when you have to go out the next day. BUT, I wont ever try to push this one into a situation where you might get caught, or if I do I will be certain to be present to keep you safe. I may send you to the store with a buttplug in, but I wont send you to the store with a skirt so short anyone could see it.
  • Intelligence play: Bimboplay is among the most common things in hynokink spaces, and it's no surprise that it's something I have a fair deal of experience with. I enjoy much of what bimbo play has to offer, the objectification aspect plays nicely into the kinds of control I like, and making someone wear garish pink outfits regardless of their own desires is deeply amusing. But the main thing I love about it is making you feel stupid, or silly, and using that to humiliate you and make you feel small in comparison to me. One of my favorite games is instilling a bimbo trigger and then using it before quizzing you on basic things, I like to see how simple I can make the quiz and still make you earnestly fail it.
  • Worship: Body worship, cock worship, feet worship. I absolutely love being praised, it's among my favorite things personally. And so this method of degradation is an excellent way of mixing a supportive humiliation environment with one that I can deeply enjoy.
  • Watersports: This one is totally optional, but I know that many people aren't open to it. So, if you're a sub who wants to explore watersports in a humiliation context, I can do that. And I'd be happy to.
  • Games: I am not a switch, and I don't enjoy being in submissive situations. However, there is one exception. I enjoy playing kinky games, strip monopoly, mario party with dares, making bets with you about various things. If you have some bratty, or switchy tendencies, this would be your chance to get me on the back end. Though, you should know, I enjoy rigging games whenever I can, so don't count on winning.
• Limits
  • Violence: I'm not particularly interested in threats of physical violence. Knife-play and gun-play would need a huge amount of pretalk for me to even consider them.
  • Genuine Emotional Distress: This isn't so much a limit in terms of "you aren't allowed to do it" but more so that if you begin to cry during a scene, then the scene is over. I will get you a blanket, tissues and a water. We can keep the scene going once you're feeling better.

Expectations:
When I play, I will absolutely enjoy pushing you to some extreme kinky places. And I will also absolutely enjoy calling you names. Despite that, however, I find myself being supportive and caring more often than not. I take being a dominant as a serious responsibility, if someone trusts me to give control over themselves, then I have a duty to them to protect them and care for their wellbeing for as long as we play. Safewords and Aftercare are non-negotiable. I would ideally like a longer term play relationship with you, so pretalk would be reserved for the when we're starting and when we try new things. A relationship outside of kink is preferred, but it's not necessary, we'll determine in our talks if that's something that will work with us. By far the most important thing to me in any play partner is transparency and honesty, if you are open and clear with me, then I will push you as hard as you can handle, or as gently as you want. Ultimately, what I want from this is partners I can help feel secure in themselves as submissives, and comfortable in that submission, allow them to explore aspects of themselves that they usually aren't allowed to in the world. I find that many people out there want to be able to let go of being important people all the time, and just be a pet for a little while, or even longer. If that sounds like you, hit me up.

Additionally nsfw pictures and videos will not be required initially, but I would expect them once we have built trust, they will of course be reciprocated if desired. I would never expect you to trust me with your pictures if I did not trust you with mine. Finally, I tend to find myself anyone who is femme-presenting, so women of all kinds are encouraged to reply.

As a note, I marked this post as specifically targeting people from the midwest, I myself am in southeast Minnesota. I did so because I am more interested in exploring irl play now than I have been in the past, expanding my horizons and whatnot. But, I am open to online play if you find this post particularly intriguing and would like to reach out, just know that I would, eventually, like to connect in person if we hit it off particularly well.

Conclusion:
I understand that I have added a huge amount of information here, and I hope that something in there is interesting to you. If it is, my preferred method of communication is on discord. My username is: murphydog. I'd like to start with a quick swap of (sfw) pics so we can know we're both attracted to one another. And I look forward to hearing your expectations and to discuss them. Cannot wait to meet you <3.