The Couple of the Month for the month of November is u/layndare

I hope everyone had a great Halloween, it's time to warm each other up for fall. Thank you to everyone who has contributed this month, now let's get to know our wonderful couple of the month.

Bio: Hi! He’s Lay (husband) and she’s Alina (wife) - a young hedonistic couple trying to live life to the fullest. We’ve been together for 11 years now, married for 6 years, and in the lifestyle for about 8 years. We’re each others’ firsts for pretty much everything and it’s been a fun ride to say the least!! We’re fortunate to have found each other and have such compatible sexual kinks to make this lifestyle a true magical experience for the both of us!

Q: How did you get into the hotwifing/cuckolding lifestyle? Who brought it up first and how did the other react initially?

A: We got into the lifestyle without even knowing about it or its existence. In fact, it all started about 10 years ago when Lay took Alina to a set of natural hot springs on Valentine’s Day for a day of fun road-tripping! We both came from an upbringing where sexuality wasn’t really expressed or encouraged. Even showing skin or wearing shorts or swimsuits to the beach wasn’t really a thing in our families - but when we got together we loved being able to explore and get “wild” - and at the time, going to a natural hot spring and being completely NAKED in public land was actually such a thrilling activity. Anyway, once there, we cautiously shed our clothes and we were alone for about 15mins or so until another guy asked if he could join us while we were in the springs, just as a fellow ‘nudist.’ We said yes, and we carried on a small talk conversation, but we were super shy of course. Anyway, Lay was really turned on by the fact that this other gentleman could see Alina’s naked body and boobs hovering right above the surface of the water. We talked about the thrill of it for HOURS on the trip back and subsequent days as well. That ultimately sparked the candaulism kink for Lay. Alina was shy of course but she learned that she LOVED being submissive to Lay, even when it meant stepping out of her comfort zone. After that experience, we ventured more into nude recreation and then eventually considered having other people join us sexually for a more intense version of the same feeling that was created by exposing Alina. We tried dating separately and very quickly learned that it wasn’t for us at all, so we dated others together and just had fun…. and this was all still before we even knew what the lifestyle or even swinging was lol. It was a very natural progression.

Q: When was your first experience? How did you meet the bull? How was it?

A: 8 years ago with a guy we met on an app called Feeld. We had no idea how things would end up but he was very chill and relaxed. The first time was great in fact - we tried several different positions and we took turns fucking Alina and even did some more classic MFM positions like spit roasting! He even used his fingers to give Alina her first big squirt. Very enjoyable and everyone left with happy faces to say the least.

Q: What's you relationship like now? About how often do you get to play with a third?

A: Our relationship is the same as before - strong and confident. We don’t see the lifestyle as a necessary part of our relationship but rather an extension of what we love - we call it our hobby. We play with thirds (guys and girls) and other couples about once or twice a month maybe but we can (and have) gone over a year without playing with anyone else as well. It’s purely when we feel like it.

Q: How do you typically find bulls? What do you look for in a bull? Any specific requirements or type you prefer to play with?

A: We find our ‘bulls’ everywhere! Online, at lifestyle clubs / cruises, at nude beaches, and even vanilla people at the beach!!! We don’t have any hard requirements but what we do look for is a genuine nature. Alina highly prefers when the ‘bull’ approaches us in a playful yet classy way - like a gentleman would, while respecting the primary relationship! We look for people that just want to have a good time and possibly be friends outside the bedroom too. Lay also loves it when the ‘bull’ gives Alina his full attention. Good chemistry is key.

Q: What is the Husband's role in the relationship? Does he ever get involved during playtime?

A: We share a stag/vixen relationship in the hotwife world. He is straight, and she is bi. Lay is the one who has the better people reading skills to read who would be a good match for us, so he does the initial screening if it’s online! Lay is always involved during playtime, and we both prefer it that way. The only time Lay will actually leave a guy in the other room with Alina for a few minutes is usually to give him a chance to become less anxious. We do everything together!

Q: What was your best experience so far in the lifestyle?

A: This is a tough one, but the best experience has probably been with a couple we swapped with on the Bliss Cruise we went on in April, 2023! The husband and wife were classy and cute! Alina also discovered that she is a bit of a cuckqueen with this particular couple. Alina was so turned on from watching and encouraging Lay to please the other wife. Great chemistry with this lovely couple both in and outside the bedroom.

Q: Do you have any concerns or fears when it comes to the lifestyle?

A: Personally, we prefer to keep our distance away from people who rely on too much alcohol and/or drugs to participate in the lifestyle. When we meet an attractive couple, it is concerning when one spouse speaks for the other one, usually the husband speaking for the wife. We do enjoy an even distribution of energy in a conversation as that usually translates to a much more comfortable playtime. We also don’t want to be a part of other peoples’ drama!

Q: What haven't you tried so far that you'd like to?

A: A gangbang for Alina and a reverse gangbang for Lay. It’s all about finding people we vibe with though… which is HARD, because we like to be picky 😇.

Q: What advice do you have for other couples looking to explore this lifestyle?

A: Know WHY you are doing it. We’ve hosted swinger parties before and we’ve met all kinds of people in the lifestyle - most people and couples are great but some definitely concern us. We think it’s crucial to know why you are in the lifestyle (both partners individually and then together as well). Find overlaps and common areas in those kinks and interests and then explore the lifestyle together in a healthy way while always checking in with each other. Let it blossom from there.

Q: Thank you for sharing with us at r/CuckoldVerified. If people would like to see more of your content, where is the best place to do that?

A: Thank you for having us!!! Folks can see more of our content at onlyfans.com/layndare ! Our OF is purely for our fun. We absolutely LOVE sex and each other and have been posting NSFW content for our own pleasure since 2013 (anonymously from 2013-2018 because we were both students and then engineers 🤓)! Realness is the key to our OF page - if we don’t LOVE it, we don’t post it, period. You’ll see all kinds of crazy fun on there from our sexy and genuine moresomes/swinging, to Alina pole dancing, to videos of Lay roleplaying as a DoorDasher fucking Alina 😂.

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