I'll make another post about my wife and me later. For now, I'm curious to know everyone's thoughts who may have been through something similar.

I am a wannabe stag? Cuck? I'm not quite sure where I fall yet.

I confessed this to my wife two years ago. We just hit our seven-year anniversary.

She was shocked by my confession, but also was understanding and asked a few questions. However, she ultimately told me that she would never in a million years be a hotwife, that she loves me, and that she can't imagine it being okay to sleep with another man.

I'm not sure I'd want to go all the way either, but I thrive off the fantasy and have convinced myself that I'd definitely let her touch, tease, and maybe go as far as giving a blow job to another man.

Two years after confessing my fantasy of imagining and getting off to the thought of her being a hotwife and getting her to confess some juicy hotpast stuff (she was rather innocent, and I was her first PIV partner), she has actually come around and will entertain my fantasy through role-playing and using a vibrator I bought and named after her ex-boyfriend. I recently sent her on a "girls trip to Europe" (we live in the US) and gave her a set of rather spicy dares to perform while she was there.

She agreed, and did most of the dares, which ranged from "I dare you to flash a stranger," "sext with a guy on Tinder and screenshot it all for me," to "flirt with a guy and get him to buy you drinks, and lead him on to believe that you'll have sex with him, all while being honest about having a husband. Kissing and touching are okay." As she’d keep me updated on all of this. It was an absolute blast! It was the funnest and furthest she had ever gone for me. At the end of the trip, she confessed how hot it was feeling single and free, but also still having the security of a loving and hardworking husband at home waiting for her.

My dilemma is this: my wife says she honestly doesn't have any sexual fantasies (I've asked on many occasions without pressuring her) other than being with me doing normal sex stuff, and that she doesn't think about sex as often as I do. We have four kids, and she's a stay-at-home mother. I do my best to spoil her, help around the house, and give her time off, and I will watch the kids to let her go out and have some alone time. And I encourage her to have fun! But she tells me that she honestly only does it for me, and that sometimes it gets overwhelming, and she's just not that into it. I find it hard to believe, as she has done a lot of roleplaying with me that we both really enjoyed. Is she afraid to confess her fantasies to me? Or does she really not have any? And am I the only one getting off on the idea of sharing her with other men?

Example of dares that she didn't do because she felt uncomfortable: "Kiss a random stranger that you find attractive," "let a guy finger you in a pub after flirting, and if you're into him," "get a happy ending massage from a male masseuse."