Hello all,

I'm a 44m and have been married to my gorgeous wife for 12years. We have recently been sharing more in the bedroom. We have always had good sex, but it has always been vanilla, my wife recently shared with me that she fantasizes about having sex with another woman, which is an exciting idea for me. She shared this with me one evening during our sex session. I was excited to hear that she was open to playing with other people, as this has been a fantasy of mine for most of our marriage. However, my fantasy is to see her with another man. This past weekend we were on vacation and I built up the courage to share with her my fantasy. During the first day of our vacation she was sharing with one of her girlfriends her desire to be with another woman. Later that evening when we were alone I brought up the subject and started to ask her questions about what her fantasy was really about. I was asking her to share with me how she saw it happening. Later in the conversation she asked me what about my fantasies. I finally built the courage to share with her that I would love to see her take another man, especially a black man, and then I would like to be in the room in the corner watching, masturbating. At first she was silent, but then responded with "you would really want to watch another man have his penis in me?". We got pulled away my friends and went on to do something together. Later that evening as we walked back to our room, my wife said "so tell me more about this fantasy of yours" I explained to her in more detail how one time when we were in a thermal room at a spa was a black male who was flirting / talking to her and she rinsed off in her hot little bikini. I explained to her how that was a massive turn-on for me. I told her after that I started researching sharing wives, I told her that I found a term used to describe this desire, I told her about the word cuckold, she had never heard about this before. We talked a little bit more about it being a fantasy and probably something I could never really go through with. We had a great time with each other and we were both very turned on. We didn't talk much more about my fantasy or hers for the rest of the trip. My question is how do I bring it back up with her? How do we explore this together now to see if it's something we want to do?