We are a couple (35M, 32F) diving more deeply into the world of cuckolding and hotwife play over the past year, year and a half. I thought I would try to spark a discussion around some of the challenges that we have encountered along the way.

We have had good luck learning from Reddit. We ended up getting good advice about a few things, including lifestyle considerations for those in small towns like us, chastity, giving up control to a bull , and No PIV/pussyfree concepts. We realize that something more firm and structured will work best for us. So that is a very positive development.

We have had less luck with bulls. We received hundreds of replies.t. We had online conversations with a few dozen bulls and a few couples. We met six in person. She even played a bit. But nothing really stuck... not yet, anyways. We also talked with a few people who are not local about options and that just felt like it would be impossible logistically. We did not anticipate it would be so difficult to find the right fit.

A few random questions come to mind:

- Have you been able to develop lifestyle friends? Did you meet them online with the lifestyle in mind or bring it up with vanilla friends hoping that it could work?

- Any thoughts on metal chastity devices? Right now I have a CB-6000.

- For those of you that do No PIV/Pussyfree, does it deepen the psychological side? Do you maintain it or go back and forth?

- Would you be interested in reading journal entries about our experiences? Is there a good place for that on Reddit?