My girlfriend and I (Newbies) have been talking about the lifestyle and wanting to dip our toes. But as most people know, the hard part is finding someone trustworthy.

Any advice on using dating apps to find a third? Most people freak out that I'll be watching and ghost us. And the ones that don't, seem to have their ego stroked majorly and are dont really get the dynamic. How do y'all approach this using traditional dating apps? Do your partners just act single and drop the bomb much later when everyone is a lil more comfy?

Feel free to recommend better apps or websites if we've been going at it wrong. We've already tried Feeld and that was alright.