A little background: I discovered cuckolding in my early 20s, instantly loved the kink and my role as a bull. After many years of fun I decided I wanted to settle down and have something a little more substantial than just being a hot side-piece for married women. Since then, I've tried more "conventional" dating and found some amazing women I've cared about deeply and dated seriously for years, but have also felt that something is missing.

I've explored this for a long time and it's led me to polyamory. I've read a number of books, talked to friends, a therapist to try to better understand my feelings. I can't be 100% certain until I try, but I'm interested in exploring polyamory.

As I'm thinking about all of this, I'm also reflecting on the amazing experiences I've had with married women and the incredible physical and emotional connections I had with some very special people. It made me begin to wonder if I could combine these desires.

In the past, I've always been more of a "great fuck" for a married woman, but I'm more than just a guy with a big cock. I developed some real friendships with couples, and noticed quickly that developing an emotional bond with a couple also translated into even better sex in the bedroom.

How common is it for a couple to date a bull with the intention of having something more meaningful and fulfilling than just sex?

Actually dating a hotwife would be new territory for me. A big part of my hesitation is that I'm uncertain if there are couples who are even open to this kind of connection, and even if there are it is difficult to imagine finding them. I remember the slog of searching for a real cuckold couple (holy fuck the amount of catfish out there).

To be clear, I'm still not sure exactly what I'm looking for or what I want. I have a vague idea of dating a hotwife and settling into something more long term that involves emotional and physical connection. I'm curious if anyone has experiences like this and any advice for if or how to pursue this interest.

The tl;dr: I enjoyed being a bull for many years, traditional monogamous relationships have been unfulfilling, I want to explore polyamory, and I'm interested in combining poly and cuckolding.