Apologies about my writing, my English isn’t perfect. We live in London England, my wife is British white and I’m a British born Asian cuckold. So we explored swinging when we were first married and realised right away we were a cuckold couple. We had a wonderful few years with some amazing guys. We took a break and focussed on having a family etc.

Well we started again about 18 months ago when my wife met a guy on a night out at a pub with her friend. She confided in her friend what I liked and her friend introduced her to a guy who would eventually become her boyfriend.

So they’ve been a couple for some time- it works for us- we role play, we enjoy what we do. There have been a few hiccups and the need to set a few rules along the way- but we’ve been so happy and despite some Angst I’ve been so fulfilled.

Last night my wife went out with him as they do most weekends. However, she didn’t stay at his place- she came home around 4am. She didn’t come to bed either as she normally would. She was short with me when I went to see her, said she was tired. She slept in the spare room. It turns out that he broke up with her. I got it out of her eventually. She cried and we cuddled. I felt so so sad too. But it was hard for me to see her so upset. She really opened up and showed me the texts.

The reason for the break up was that it was getting too ritualistic and scheduled. We have our set night she sees him, and we also spend time all together. He said it wouldn’t be fair to demand more because he felt he was getting so much, especially as they were sexually exclusive. But he said that if he felt he wanted to be with someone, he didn’t feel he could call on her. And he said that as they had agreed to be exclusive he couldn’t cheat. He said that given how this is our unique dynamic, he said maybe it’s run its course.

I made Anna tea and massaged her and we chatted. I got her take away for dinner.

She has been asking me to help her text him. She has also said she thinks he would listen to me if I try to convince him to meet up with me and try to put in a good word for her. She feels the door might still be open. It’s been hard to see her so upset for several reasons.

She wondered if I could have a think about how to make him a bit happier with the arrangement. He has been amazing as a bull- and he was totally new to this prior to us. Anna said if I wrote to him asking to meet up, being respectful of his time, I could hear him out too and maybe work something out.

She says if this is it, she needs a good long break, and for now can’t see her exploring this again.

Again- most couples don’t share this dynamic but it’s sort of how we have grown over the years, and is the result of the compromises we made to enjoy this.

So. Any suggestions on how to handle this. Also, how not to mess things up (a lot of the rules and control were made by me- they’re a bare back couple and exclusive so I sort of Imposed rules. They aren’t important. I need to try and help my beautiful wife out. I already suggested to her, we could organise for them to have some alone time- a weekend away maybe- if I could get him to open up to discussing getting back with her. I’m meeting him in half an hour as he is coming back from a few drinks with friends.

Anna felt it might be nice if I suggest we take a walk the 2 of us, offer him a drink and relax so he opens up and see if I can see a way to fix things or atleast make sure it really is over if that’s his final say. We thought she could wait at home indoors maybe surprise him in some heels or something when we come back. If he feels like being with her, fine. If not, we will assure him it is fine and his wish will be respected.