My friend needs help but doesn’t want to share his Reddit ID. He’ll be watching for advice. These are his words:

My wife and her best friend have always been close. She visited us frequently, sometimes staying over at least one weekend every few weeks. Over time, we all got comfortable, and things took a wild turn — playful, erotic encounters evolved into intimate three-way moments that even spilled over into vacations together. I won’t lie; seeing other guys envy me for having the attention of two gorgeous women was thrilling.

But life has changed. A few months ago, I opened my dream beachside restaurant, and now my weekends are consumed by long hours trying to get it off the ground. Meanwhile, her friend found a boyfriend, and they often visit — mostly spending time with my wife while I’m stuck at work.

And here’s where jealousy hit hard. Her friend’s boyfriend is the kind of guy who demands attention — tall, built, and confident. One evening after dinner, as soon as they left the table, I saw him standing between my wife and her friend, charming them effortlessly as they walked arm-in-arm along the beach.

It stung. I stepped out for a cigarette, trying to shake off the tight knot in my chest. Then I froze — they were kissing right there. I forgot to exhale the smoke and ended up coughing like hell. That moment was torment.

Now, I can’t stop replaying it in my head. How do I deal with this jealousy? How do I stop feeling so threatened by someone stepping into what used to be my place of attention and desire?

I don’t even know how to bring this up to her. I mean, I was entirely on board when we were all having fun with her best friend — honestly, I loved it. But now? How do I tell her I don’t want her doing that with her best friend’s boyfriend?

I don’t want to sound insecure or controlling, but pretending this isn’t messing with me isn’t working either.

What do I even say without sounding ridiculous?