I’ve a cuckolding kink that I’ve told my wife about. Over a period of 6 months we’ve gone from me admitting that , under certain circumstances, I wouldn’t leave her if she slept with someone else to admitting that it’s a turn on, to us discussing ( theoretical) boundaries and putting rules in place for what might happen if the opportunity arises.

She’s asked me several times how this whole thing started for me - so far Ive told her I don’t really know. I’ve never had any thoughts like this with anyone I’ve been with before. If I had to answer I’d say it was when she admitted cheating with a co worker over 15 years ago but I can’t say for sure.

I think she’s close to taking the leap, she’s going for a short holiday with 2 of her single friends and it could be the perfect opportunity.

My question is - is the cheating likely to have been the trigger, and probably more importantly, should I tell her if it is.

It will no doubt help her to understand things but could it also derail things?