So my fiancée and I are into this; but haven’t fully committed to anything yet.

We’re engaged but still live separately (Christian family background and all that), but we do have a house being built for us in the meantime

Anyway, the current focus of our fantasy is my roommate and good friend Jon, she’s absolutely obsessed with him (on a physical level).

Nothing has happened yet, we don’t know for sure if it will because we’re keeping communication and boundaries at the top of the list of importance and this would be a sensitive issue to dance around. However, again, she’s crazy for him, and it’s so hot to me

He’s also fucked a woman who’s friends with my girl, who I had a massive crush on for years, even before I met my fiancée. She is ridiculously hot, and honestly I’m starting to get really jealous

I just wish I could be that man that women go crazy over, fawn after, the tall handsome successful guy. Don’t get me wrong I do decent for myself, and my girl gets wet for me and loves me, but the reaction to my friend is so different, he hits a primal nerve in these women and it’s ridiculous, it’s just something I don’t have (amongst other stuff).

How do you keep your jealousy at a healthy level? What do you do when you’re feeling down about yourself?