As a cuckoldress roaming these parts of the internet, from time to time posting anecdotes from my rather promiscuous marriage, I get LOADS of private messages. Many from wannabe cucks or unexperienced cucks, asking how to get their wifes to fulfill their fantasies. Now, others have written on this topic and I might share my opinion another time. But there is a topic that regularly comes up: "How can I tell my wife that I want to be pussy free!? I have a chastity cage but she does not like it".

If you have similar in mind, this is for you. This is a heads up for wannabe cuckolds: if your relationship is still just a fantasy and you’re thinking about going "pussy free" with your wife, stop and think. Take a step back. Wives (at least most of them, I guess) need regular, real, and satisfying PIV (penis-in-vagina) sex. Skin on skin. Having the man cum inside (❤️). Most monogamous relationships have some kind of birth control in place, that does not require condoms. If you try to force your wife into a pussy-free arrangement without understanding her needs, you’re setting yourselves up for frustration and failure. Women thrive on emotional and physical connection, and without that physical component, she will not be truly happy.

As long as your wife does not have lovers outside the marriage, you should do your best to fulfill her craving for PIV sex with all that you can offer. This means making an effort to meet her needs physically, even if it takes creativity, communication, and dedication. Denying her this or settling for less will only lead to dissatisfaction and strain in your relationship.

This is especially important when your wife has started having lovers. At that point, she has experienced what it’s like to have PIV sex with men who may fulfill her in ways you can’t. Even though she still loves you deeply and values your emotional bond, she might prefer the physical experience with other men. That’s the time when a pussy-free arrangement might make sense—not before. If she’s already receiving what she needs from other men, trying to keep up physically or enforce restrictions will only create tension.

As a loving wife who occasionally seeks out other men (😉), I know this firsthand. I love my husband and the emotional intimacy we share, but when it comes to PIV sex, he just doesn’t meet my physical needs. This isn’t a matter of love or commitment. It’s about reality: his penis size and stamina aren’t enough for me to feel completely satisfied, even when he truly gave and gives his best. I have had orgasms from PIV before we met and I have them since we are in the lifestly. But I never had a single vaginal orgasm with him or his penis. Our sex life at home is meaningful but focused on emotional connection rather than physical pleasure. Yes, we have PIV sex, but it’s more about bonding than satisfaction. We also experiment with toys, strapons, and big dildos, which helps, but let’s face it—those things are no substitute for a real man who knows how to use what he’s got.

Having lovers is about fulfilling the physical needs that my husband can’t meet. My lovers provide me with passion, intensity, and the kind of satisfaction I crave. This doesn’t diminish my love for my husband—it enhances it. When I come back from being with a lover, I feel more connected to myself and more loving toward him. Our agreement allows me to embrace my needs while maintaining a strong and honest marriage.

If you’re considering a cuckolding lifestyle, you need to understand that this isn’t just about fantasy. It’s about balancing your wife’s emotional and physical needs. Pussy-free might seem like an exciting idea in theory, but if she’s not already fully satisfied and fulfilled elsewhere, it won’t work. A wife who’s denied PIV sex will not be happy, and a relationship built on her frustration is doomed to fail.

On the other hand, when a wife has experienced lovers and feels truly satisfied, that’s when a pussy-free dynamic might actually thrive. She’s already fulfilled, and your relationship can focus on emotional connection, trust, and mutual respect. At that stage, it’s not about denying her—it’s about supporting her.

At the end of the day, this lifestyle is about honesty and understanding. Regular, passionate sex is essential to a woman’s happiness, and denying that is denying her true self. If you want this to work, you need to prioritize her needs, not your fantasies. Only then can you build a relationship that’s open, fulfilling, and sustainable for both of you.

I hope this helps some of the guys out there understanding how to ease themselves and their wife into this wild fantasy of pussy free relationships without sacrificing a healthy marriage 😊