So the past couple.of years I've had this fantasy of watching someone have sex with my wife while I watched. We discussed it and it's been a staple of our fantasies since.

She's not really into it, saying she would consider it for me, but she didn't want to do it for herself. We tried a couple of times and they went nowhere, the guy couldn't get ready, or he was too passive to do anything.

Anyways we did have one point of contention, where if we did it, I wanted to participate (wife sharing/threesome) but she said she would rather just handle one person at a time. She also wondered if she did something with the other guy that she didn't do with me, and I said that would make me uncomfortable.

Anyways, I did chat with a cuckold on Reddit, wondering if that was what I was, but the things he told me that he got off on, the humiliation, the denial of sex and other aspects of his relationship really poured cold water on that aspect, so I definitely know I'm not a cuckold, I'm not into humiliation or degradation, I just would like to see my wife enjoy herself as long as it's part of OUR sex and journey.

So if I'm not a cuckold, what am I? Does me wanting to see my wife enjoy herself make me some sort of beta in any way? Because I don't want that? Is there a better term for this dynamic?