So I brought up to my longtime girlfriend the other night I had a dream in which we were at a party and while at the party she left me (we both consented) to go be with another man (the dream ended here). I told her I was extremely turned on in the dream and when I woke up as well. I told her I loved the feeling of being jealous. I pretty much left it at this. I didn’t want to be too pushy-just put it out there. I didn’t get into graphic details-I simply explained I was very turned on in the dream and I was jealous.

She listened and wasn’t judgmental, but made it a point a couple times to say, “I would never do that.” I explained how it was transparent in the dream and I was turned on by it. Again she stated she would never do that.

I’m bummed. I wasn’t expecting her to go full hotel wife when I explained this to her, but I guess I feel bummed because it took me a LONG time (cpl years) to bring it up, and while I don’t feel judged over it, I guess I feel dismissed. I’m secretly hoping somehow it got in her mind and she’ll start thinking about it, but those are just my crazy expectations. I’m embarrassed she thinks less of me and I’m sad after being shot down.

I really want to watch her enjoy herself with another man, but I don’t think it’s going to happen after the other night. I need some encouragement.