I've recently told my girlfriend of 5 years that I want to see her with another man, and although she said she's often thought about it.

But she doesn't want it to ruin our relationship which I get and hold the same view.

When we talk dirty, this is often one of our topics, fantasising about her with another man. And then she shuts off about the matter

Well today she agreed to buy a 9-inch dildo which I think is a step in the right direction

Could asking if she wants to try oral with another man be the way forward instead of straight to sex

And if she's not feeling too confident at the moment affect her decision But also want to make her feel as comfortable and safe as possible