Wife and I are in our mid 30s and the first time we did cuckolding was way back when we were still dating, like almost 15 years ago. We did it pretty steadily for years till we took a long break to have a family - then got back into it a couple years ago. Point being, we’re pretty experienced.

It was always just like vanilla sex stuff tho for the most part, but she had told me that she was curious about exploring kink and even having a Dom/sub relationship at some point. I’m not kinky like that or Dominant so it’s not something that worked for us - but I always felt she was free to explore that with other people. I don’t typically watch so she can just do her thing.

Fast forward a while and she now has met someone who she has been exploring kink with a lot. I am currently like overwhelmed by the feelings around it - both good and bad. It’s incredibly hot, but also makes me incredibly jealous. It’s like we cranked the cuckolding up to an 11…I’m constantly like jittery and nervous and also hard and can’t stop thinking about it.

I’m curious if anyone else has dealt with this and what you did to calm yourself down / mellow out. Or is this just all part of it and it just happens sometimes?

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Really diving into the psychology of it all, I think there’s a few things setting me off here:

- Her exploration - hearing about her doing new things, trying new stuff..esp stuff I’d never expect her to be into is really weird. It’s not that I want to do the things with her even…but it’s just odd, like she’s a different person.

- It takes her a bit longer than usual to open up about what she’s done - shes often processing it herself, or embarrassed by it, or just needs a moment. She also often has marks on her body etc. so rather than in the past where we’d usually connect that same night, it’s often waiting a day or two or more till we can reconnect. We still cuddle and kiss right after, but that’s sorta been it.

- One thing that’s been really hot tho has been that he has her do stuff while she is home, usually using a plug or clamps or something similar. We’ve never done that dynamic before, usually I don’t watch or get involved really. So that has been a lot of fun that keeps it hot, while the other stuff drives me crazy.

Any way, happy to hear from others who have gone through this or have wisdom.