I came across a post by a single guy sharing advice for newbies, and I thought it’d be worth sharing our own experience. It’s simple but has worked wonders for us. 1. Prioritize intimacy: Keep your sex life exciting and consistent. Remind your partner to maintain her individuality amidst life’s demands like family and kids. 2. Open admiration: Don’t shy away from appreciating attractive people in front of your partner. Share what you like but always affirm your love for her—this fosters trust and openness. 3. Confidence in style: Gradually encourage her to explore bolder, sexier outfits that make her feel confident, and always appreciate her effort. 4. Social validation: Let her enjoy compliments and attention online—it’s a great confidence boost. Help her feel desired but ensure safety and discretion in interactions. 5. Explore together: Ease into watching adult content as a couple. Start simple and build comfort before exploring more adventurous material. 6. Celebrate her confidence: Highlight how her newfound confidence and attention from others make her even more attractive to you. 7. Safe connections: Once she’s comfortable, guide her to discreet platforms (e.g., Reddit or SDC) where she can connect safely and share anonymously if desired. 8. Positive reinforcement: Use comments or messages she receives as a tool to deepen intimacy during private moments. 9. First steps: When ready, facilitate brief, safe one-on-one meetings with those she connects with, ensuring transparency and comfort. 10. Evolve together: Gradually introduce the lifestyle in a way that feels natural for both of you, always maintaining communication and respect.

We’ve been swingers for about five years now, engaging with around 50 couples and singles but only playing with a select few. Every experience has been exciting, and we’ve built amazing friendships both in and out of the lifestyle.

There have been periods where we were very active and times when we took long breaks—life happens, but our connection never waned. Whether or not we’re exploring, our bedroom remains full of passion and fun.

And yes, toys are a game-changer! 😉