I'm unable to get turned on by sex with my wife anymore and I only get aroused by thinking of my wife with other people. Humiliation really gets me going, stuff like imagining her taking another dick with me watching and then saying it feels so much better than with me.

She was fucking a coworker last year and then telling me about it, showing me what he did to her and how she orgasmed over and over all night like she never has with me.

But she would never consider letting me watch or anything, partially because it would have freaked him out but also because of it being awkward and weird.

I dont know how to convince her to get into this properly. She does seem to be going along with it verbally but she admits it doesn't really turn her on for me to be so submissive.