Recently I expressed to my girlfriend, who I’ll refer to as L, that I would like for her to fuck other people that she finds attractive.

As seems to be the norm, L was horrified, accused me of wanting to sleep with other women, etc. the usual stuff. After really talking it out she really doubled down on telling me it absolutely isn’t going to happen.

I am aware that this scenario is pretty common, so I am trying not to be disappointed as I know it takes women time to come around, if they ever do at all so I am really trying to be nice, supportive, and non judgmental hoping that it will give her the opportunity to examine what she really wants and not what she thinks our relationship has to be.

The other night, I took her to dinner and she opened up to me and told me about a previous fling. The conversation wasn’t sexual, but I could tell that she had fun talking about it. She also told me about how a cute guy at work has a female German shepherd and said that the two of them should have a play date with their pets. I tried to encourage her to take him up on that, but he is unfortunately very short (L is tall). We’ve also been having much more and much better sex recently, she even bought a new toy and last time we went to the store, she drug me to the condom aisle and excitedly talked about all of the different options and we laughed together as people passed us in the aisle; this is huge because L is VERY shy.

I am pleasantly surprised about how she has leaned into talking about guys to me recently, even in small ways. L knows that if she ever wants to go hangout with a guy or go fuck it out that I will drive her and wait so she’s not alone, but she’s apprehensive and insists that I’m the only one for her and that my dick is “perfect” despite never having squirted or had an orgasm from piv with me alone. L has told me that the only time she fantasizes about fucking other people is NFL players.

How do I go about getting my girl comfortable with imagining herself fucking normal people that she has access to? How do I continue to communicate to her that the offer is still on the table and always will be? What things can I do to make her feel comfortable with the fact that I won’t stop wanting her, and what subtle gestures can I do to nudge her into opening her mind to sex with other men?