My wife and I have a cuckold relationship as one might surmise from my posting in the cuckold psychology sub. We've been at it a few years, we entered into it to help bring her sex drive back. It came back, she really felt a new energy and enthusiasm around sex but now it has died off once again, at least toward me.

I was reading a blog on a lifestyle site earlier today and here's an excerpt:

Emotional detachment from traditional monogamous sexual patterns can also play a part. Cuckolding involves explicit communication and consensual boundaries that allow the wife to explore her sexual desires without guilt or secrecy. This open acknowledgment of her fantasies can create an empowered sense of agency, allowing her to fully immerse herself in her sexual adventures. By contrast, the predictability of intimacy with her husband might feel routine, less urgent, or emotionally neutral.

It really resonated with me, especially that last sentence. We are back in that spot and I feel like I'm at a turning point of going pussy free/pussy lite or breaking off a 20 year marriage. Couples therapy didn't help, her only real drive for sexual energy and attraction is newness and excitement. The limerence drives her desire even the bulls/boyfriends don't stick around too long before she tires of them. Sadly, I think I know my answer. I shouldn't think I'm any different just because I am married to her but I'm kind of bummed about moving on since everything else is quite good. I do know that I have an innate desire to feel desired in a relationship and I've not felt that for some time.

I'd love any other perspectives but I keep coming back to this quote "If you don't sacrifice for what you want, what you want becomes the sacrifice." and I feel like all signs are pointing toward moving on.