Early this year I told my wife about my kink we haven’t been married for that long but had date for about 3 years now. Before we got married I confessed about this kink. I asked her about what she thought and she didn’t judge me and she understood.

Now she wants to have 3some with a girl and I brought up having a 3some with a guy or just her having sex with another guy. She said now and said she couldn’t do that I talked to her about it a couple of times and she even agree to like flirt with a guy just so I would get jealous and like back off from asking her, we had a discussion and she talked to me like she actually fuck another dude just to see how that Made me feel I was masturbating while she did and well I kinda find it hot and what not. But I told her I really didn’t like the idea bc I know she doesn’t want to do it. Now this was in FaceTime call and she didn’t know I was masturbating.

Now another thing to add she lives in another country due to our work we separated for the moment I really would like this kink to play out but I don’t want to ruin my marriage for a stupid kink, she seem like she would play a little bit into it just to make jealous enough to show it is a bad idea.

How can I deal with this kink and keep my marriage well.

Obviously my marriage is more important that the kink but how can I go about it ? Any advice please