Hi Everyone,

I (M32) and my wife (F31) have been together for almost 10 years since we started dating. We have an excellent relationship—we're incredible friends, and we have a good sexual life. Like every relationship, we have our ups and downs, but these years have made me incredibly happy, and I feel very fortunate.

About a year ago, I shared my fantasies with her, but she told me she wasn’t interested. Since then, I haven’t brought up the topic again.

However, over this past year, she has repeatedly joked about it, both in daily life and during foreplay. She’s also asked me about my fantasies a couple of times, which she had never done before. I think she may be trying to reopen the conversation about this topic, but I’ve still avoided bringing it up.

This year, she’s been much more confident in herself and noticeably flirtier with men she finds attractive. She also regularly tells me when she finds someone appealing.

She’s been going out with friends more often (sharing details related to this topic with me) and also with me. On one of these nights, we had a great moment where she danced all night with a friend she likes. A couple of weeks later, this friend invited both of us to his place, and the chemistry between them was quite clear. Honestly, I felt like a third wheel.

It’s been a great year, and I’ve really enjoyed these moments. However, I wanted to hear your advice on whether I should bring this topic up with her again, if you think her response might be different this time, or if I should just let things play out naturally as they have so far.