So me and my gf have just started a cuckolding dynamic a few weeks ago with her having found a regular guy who she fucks once a week now. He doesn't know about me though, she just told him that she wants something casual. I'm unsure if this is the right way to do it. It feels immoral to not let him know that she has a bf, but I guess he agreed to having a strictly sexual relationship with her.

The reason we started is because I have a cuckolding kink, some ED issues which just frustrate her whenever we try to have sex, and that she feels anxious of the thought of only having one sexual partner for the rest of her life. She is the one who suggested that she should get to have sex with other men, with me not being allowed to be unfaithful. Now this is something I was all about at first because of my cuckolding kink, but as it has progressed, I am having some second thoughts.

My main concern right now is that it feels like I'm disconnected from her sex life. In my mind, the dynamic would involve her being excited about sharing her experiences and maybe teasing me about it. But what ended up happening is that she doesn't tell my anything if I don't ask her, and even when I ask her, I think I'm getting answers that omit information that she thinks would hurt my feelings. For instance, yesterday when I asked her if she was excited for today (she is meeting him for sex at his place today) she told me she wasn't excited, just that it felt like any day. And whenever I ask her if she likes having sex with him more she also says she prefers sex with me, which I don't doubt in general, but I would think that sometimes she would prefer sex with him. So what it boils down to is that I feel like she is trying really hard to not hurt my feelings, and as a result of that, I feel disconnected from her sex life, which is making me sad. For what it's worth, as of now, I don't want to see her actually have sex or be physically involved like that, I just want to be more connected to her sex life, but I'm not sure how that would be done exactly.

I have some questions for the couples that have tried these types of arrangements. I left out a lot about our relationship to not make too much of a wall of text, but I guess it's still really rambly, if you have any questions, I'm an open book.

• Is it immoral to not disclose the whole picture with thirds?

• How do you women feel in these relationships? Are you doing it mostly just to have better/more varied sex, or do you also like involving the cuck in some of the aspects, like do you enjoy telling him about the experience and comparison between him and the bull?

• Have any of you had the experience where the gf/wife was treating it more as just her having sex on the side than as a joint experience in some way? If so, did it change into being a more involved process, and how did you guys do it?