Could you live in a normal relationship?

Not everyone can be a bull. This is just my personal view, but I believe that to be a successful bull, there are certain qualities a man needs to possess to be an ideal sexual partner for a woman. Physical appearance, skill in bed, maybe even size—all these elements can play a role. The specific criteria will always depend on what the woman values most, so they vary. However, I think only a small fraction of men truly qualify to be bulls. Interestingly, these same qualities often align with what makes a good FWB or casual partner rather than what makes a “good husband.”

What’s intriguing is that the characteristics that might make a man an ideal bull or FWB partner don’t always overlap with those of a traditional long-term partner. While some men might fit both roles, there’s likely a group of men who feel more at ease in the role of a bull or casual partner than in a committed, monogamous relationship. But why is that?

Perhaps women see you more as a sexual partner than a potential boyfriend or husband. Or maybe, due to factors like your personality, lifestyle, or job, it’s simply easier for you to find FWB relationships than a long-term partner. It could also be that you prefer the thrill and freedom of casual relationships over the commitments of a monogamous one. You get to enjoy the “prize” without the effort required to build and maintain a relationship.

If you’re a bull or prefer being in an FWB setup, do you feel more comfortable in that role? And if so, what do you think are the reasons behind it? Would love to hear others’ perspectives on this!